Why Sexual Activity Is Important During The Menopause Years

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Health Benefits of Sexual Activity During the Menopause Years

As a Gen X woman going through menopause, I will admit that sexual activity is often the last thought on my mind. Some days insomnia, night sweats, and hot flashes make me curse the day I was born a woman. I’m like Frank Barone in Everybody Loves Raymond, wishing a massive comet would come along and bring me sweet relief.

Perhaps you feel the same way on any given day. After all, we’ve already endured decades of menstrual cycles, maybe given birth, and now… “the change.” Can’t we catch a break without all the side effects? No, though some women have an easier time during menopause than others.

Our personal experiences with symptoms may vary, but sexual activity can provide health benefits to menopausal women. That’s why it’s important.

So break out your Herbal Essence and start saying, “Yes, yes, yes!” Do they even make Herbal Essence products anymore? It doesn’t matter. If you’re a Gen Xer or a young Baby Boomer, you get the reference.

Helps vaginal tissues stay healthy

Just when you thought it was safe to sell your electronic arousal toys on eBay, you stumble on an article by Harvard Women’s Health Watch that makes you rethink your decision:

Within a few years of menopause, roughly 50% of women develop symptoms related to vaginal atrophy, also called atrophic vaginitis.

Whew, that’s a whole lot of menopausal women experiencing pain during intercourse, vaginal dryness, and irritation! Our best defense against atrophic vaginitis during menopause is sexual activity. Whether through intercourse or outercourse is your call.

Lack of estrogen does play its role in the deterioration of our vaginas. It’s a supercharged rush of blood, however, that aids in keeping our “down belows” healthy and robust (sorry, I heard that line in an episode of Call The Midwife and it cracked me up). As you all know, there’s only one way to accomplish such a feat, sexual pleasure.

For menopausal women with vaginal irritation and dryness all ready, don’t feel as though it’s too late. You can always purchase over the counter lubricants or talk to your medical health professional about low dose estrogen options.

Improves your mood

Sexual activity during menopause can make your day a bit brighter. How? A powerful blast of natural chemicals that make us feel great are unleashed during sex: Endorphins, Dopamine, Oxycontin, and Serotonin.

Those Initial feelings of elation after sex won’t last the whole day. However, sometimes the temporary boost from those happy hormones is just enough to help the rest of the day go better.

Improves your overall health and well being

Being proactive about our health should be a top priority at any age. It’s okay if you’re a late bloomer, it’s never too late to take care of yourself.

Proper exercise and nutrition aren’t the only games in town for optimal health. Along with them, sex can help you sleep better, decrease blood pressure, reduce stress, and boost your immune system.

Being Single, Not a Problem

“But, I’m single (or my spouse is no longer interested in doing the wild thing) and have no sex life!” I hear you, and I haven’t seen my husband in over six months due to the coronavirus lockdowns. For me, solo sex is the only option at this time.

For a lot of us, self-gratification doesn’t conflict with our morals. On the other hand, there’s a reason why some women may be reluctant to engage in self-pleasure, even in this day of modern feminism: The words spoken by their mothers about masturbation being sinful or shameful.

While my mother didn’t throw biblical scriptures at me, she did walk in on me once when I was around 14 or 15, “What are you doing?! You should be ashamed of yourself.”

She’s never been the bible-thumping Christian type, but her words stuck. Throughout the rest of my teen years, I used to pray after I masturbated and ask for forgiveness. Thankfully, the feelings of guilt fled once I left home.

However, some women in menopause weren’t ever able to let go of the scoldings or teachings they received in their youth. They’re reluctant to engage in solo sex. If that’s the case for you, it’s imperative for your vaginal health and overall well being to move past such damaging messages.

There’s no shame or sin in pleasuring yourself sexually. Masturbation is a perfectly acceptable way to stimulate and bring blood to your vaginal tissues.

A bonus of masturbation… when delighting our lady bits ourselves, we don’t have to worry about makeup, hair, or clothes we have on!

Before you go, we’d appreciate it if you’d like and share this post with other women so they can learn about why sexual activity during menopause is important. 

***Oh, and please, do not sell your used sex toys on eBay***

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